Continuing bonds

Grieving often includes finding new, meaningful ways to stay connected to the person you’ve lost while still engaging fully in life.

The therapeutic concept of “continuing bonds” captures the idea that the relationship itself doesn’t end, though of course it changes. The person is no longer physically present, but your connection to them remains.

There is no expectation to let go; maintaining the bond through memories and through meaningful acts like visiting special places or performing rituals like lighting a candle is normal and can provide comfort.

With time, the bond may become more integrated, providing strength, guidance, or a sense of closeness.

Continuing bonds is not denial or refusal to accept the loss. Instead, it acknowledges the reality while recognising the deep and lasting impact relationships have on our lives and identity.